As the mother of the bride or groom, it is important to realize
your role on the wedding day.
Communicating tasks you volunteer to do in the planning stage is important. These tips are for the wedding day itself.
The Big Day
Getting ready for your son’s or daughter’s
wedding is exciting. It can also be very
stressful. Knowing what is expected of
you can really help ease the pressure you may feel. Of course, much of the communication has
already happened in planning the wedding and the wedding shower. Feel prepared for the wedding day, so you can
really enjoy and capture the memories of the day in your heart. Your first, and most important job, is to be
your child’s mom. However they
need you to be for them. Below are some
other things to consider:
Be a Source of Support, not Stress!
If you feel an urge to micro-manage or take over, STOP! Know your roles. Know your place. And know that this is meant to be a day your
child has dreamed about and will look back on with love and fondness. Make sure you are checking yourself that your
‘helping’ isn’t taking over. Make sure you are creating what your child
wants, not what you want. Get rid of
your own expectations for the day.
Listen and act on what your child is suggesting.
Know What to Persist With and What to Let Go Of!
If you have always dreamed of a mother-son dance, and that was
missed in the planning, ask for what you want.
Don’t be demanding.
Presenting a polite request and communicating how important it is to you
is enough. But this is only effective
when you let other things slide. If you
are pestering your child on their big day with every detail, chances are you
will become more stressful than helpful to them. Let go of the small things, and recognize it
is their day.
Handle the Details of the Guests, the Venue, the Music…
Be Gracious!
Be gracious to your child for including you. Be a gracious hostess and contact person for
the wedding guests. Be polite to any
family members (or ex-spouses) that you have tension with. Your child does not
need extra stress and worry from dealing with your dramas and personal
relationships.
Written with the help of our friends at ChescaDirect.